Book Review - These Impossible Things by Salma El-Wardany

 

These Impossible Things by Salma El-Wardany explores the lives of three Muslim best friends navigating the complexities of love, sex, and faith. Malak, Kees, and Jenna have been best friends since childhood. Under the watchful eyes of their families, they learn to live their lives while trying to meet expectations of being good Muslim women. They often blend lies to fulfill those expectations; for example, they disguise staying at their boyfriends’ places as sleepovers at each other’s houses. They spend their days partying and blame fatigue from studying. 

They live in a moment of perceived perfection, knowing that as they grow older, they will have to change. The delicate balancing act between rebellion and religion will become harder to manage. Malak desires a Muslim partner and community, wanting her love and faith to coexist harmoniously. She longs for this so badly that she's willing to break her own heart to obtain it. Kees is in love with Harry, a white Catholic man her parents don’t know about. When Harry proposes, Kees will face the heartbreaking choice between the man she loves and her family and community. Jenna is the lively, adventurous one, always ready for something new. Yet, despite her numerous relationships and activities, she often feels lonely. Though the three have always supported each other, a single incident as college ends will change their lives forever.

I am not a Muslim, but I can understand what these women are experiencing. Still, I struggled to fully relate, especially when two of the characters pursue relationships outside their faith, despite wanting someone within it. It felt like they might be setting themselves up for heartbreak, particularly since their relationships seem serious. Aside from that, I found the characters well-written, even if they are frustrating at times. I was worried about some risky choices they made, and some situations seemed downright dangerous. My inner older sister or mom personality kept saying, “don’t do that!” Overall, I found the book emotionally compelling, and I even shed a few tears. I would be interested in reading more works by the author.